A letter to Amy Balliette (http://www.jointheimpact.com/) & SaraBeth Brooks (http://www.sdequalitynow.com/)
Dear Amy & SaraBeth, and all you new, fantastic “Generation O” organizers:
Thanks for stepping out to finish this revolution! Whew, finally! Heard you on "Feminist Magazine" (KPFK Radio) last night, and saw you at all these rallies and marches everywhere since Nov.4th. You have inspired me --- a retired lesbian community organizer from the days of Prop.6 (Briggs Initiative that tried to throw out gay teachers) and Prop. 64 (AIDS Quarantine Initiative), to come out of retirement! And get to blogging some of my stories and tips as to how we won these ballot initiatives in the 70s and 80s, and how we built the gay civil rights movement. So here’s tip #1 from my life -- and the UCLA Grad School of Community Organizing back in 1970, when I was nineteen or twenty too: 1. Marches/rallies create energy. Energy needs to be channeled towards goals. Goals need to be: *Achievable (within our lifetime) *Clear & specific (not vague) *Bold (pushing the envelope, inspiring -- like Mr. 0). I like the idea of the Boston Tea Party. Especially if you can get Boston gays (and straight allies) to spearhead that day and throw bags of our income tax reports into Boston Harbor. The rest of us can bag them and burn them on the steps of City Halls, or if we want to be polite, just leave them on the s teps with a note to the Major attached. 2. Tip Numero Dos: Tell straight friends we want and need them in our struggle. They can do the same thing we need to do: Dialog with those who don’t understand. I went to the Pasadena rally Nov. 15 and saw, out of 300 people, that half were straight! Was I shocked, and delighted! If all young people merged as One, like you did for Obama, we’d all be equal real soon. If I can be of any help to you organizers out there, write me at this blog & I’ll answer your questions, or find some other activist who knows more than I do.
Jeanne Cordova, M.S.W., is a lesbian feminist community organizer, journalist, author, butch, Chicana, writer, old, wise, pioneering elder of the GLBT community, who first voted for Hill, but swung over to O because Michelle is so awesome.
PS You can hear the Nov 19th radio interview at http://archive.kpfk.org/parchive/.
Friday, November 21, 2008
Thursday, June 12, 2008
California Dreaming: Lesbians Over 60 Together!
When they asked me to speak at the Old Lesbians Organizing for Change (OLOC) Gathering - coming up this month - I sucked in my breath. “I’m not old. I’m only fifty-nine!” I protested.Then I stopped myself, wondering, “What does ‘old’ mean? Wasn’t I forty just the other day?”
Luckily I managed a “Yes, yes, of course I’ll speak,” and politely put the phone down. But the conversation started a week-long identity crisis.
Somewhere along the way I started thinking about that upcoming weekend … old dykes gathering to fight the system … old dykes coming together to have slumber parties in the hotel rooms … Alix Dobkin singing, Sue Fink might holler a rendition of “Leaping Lesbians” … panels and workshops to help me deal with my ‘issue’ … fun … learning … a chance to grow older gracefully… this could be a blast!”
“California Dreaming: Building a Better World for Old Lesbians” will take place right here in L.A. from July 30 - August 3. (http://www.oloc.org/)
This four-day Gathering will bring Lesbians from across the country together, to be with women like ourselves.
We’re going to be entertained by the likes of the Mothertongue Feminist Readers Theater, comedian Robin Tyler, and a reunion performance by the L.A. Women’s Community Chorus.
Three dynamic keynote speakers – all over sixty – will share their wise words: award-winning author Jewelle Gomez, former California State Assemblymember Jackie Goldberg, and Blues singer Gaye Adegbalola of Saffire (who will also perform.)
Other highlights include a Saturday night Banquet and Dance and an optional Sunday Lesbian bus tour of West Hollywood sights.
Inspiring workshops will cover topics ranging from well-being to making social change, and from spirituality to belly dancing.
Yes, I am going to speak after all, on a panel on “Activism, Then & Now”; and other workshops will include topics like “Intimacy – More Than Just Coupling”; “Organizing & Coalition Building for Old Lesbians”; “African American Lesbian Activism and Visibility”; “Herbal Medicine in the Second Half of our Lives”; “Housing Alternatives”; and if you’re up for it ….”Line Dancing.”
Lesbians over sixty include the generations who came out in eras of great discrimination, as well as women who built the Lesbian Feminist movement in the ‘70s. It’s the first time that these two generations of Out Lesbians will come together to make their voices heard. And with all this talk of “the graying of America” in the mainstream press, Lesbians know that we are always ahead of the pack in making social change that benefits everyone who comes behind us. Throughout history – from the abolitionists fighting slavery, to the profession of social work, to civil rights and the women’s movement, and even the environmental movement – Lesbians have been leaders in these struggles. Now its time to put our experience to work on the next big issue – redefining what age means.
"Gilda Stories” author Jewelle Gomez says she’s looking forward to the slumber party! “I’m excited because we’re all still here.” She says, “I remember that first rush and thrill of working with Lesbians when I was in my twenties. That we’re still doing that work for change is just as thrilling.”
“I love consciousness-raising and smart old Dykes,” says Alix Dobkin, an OLOC Steering Committee member, “I put them all together and got OLOC. OLOC women taught me how to wear my age proudly, helped me to first accept and then welcome the onset of 60.”
Back to that word… OLD. I remind myself, the younger generation has reclaimed “Queer.” In the ‘70s we reclaimed the word “Dyke.” OLOC is all about reclaiming the word old with a capital O. Not calling ourselves Seniors or Elders – which conjures up pictures of us retiring to knit quietly in a corner. Hell, I use a knitting needle to clean my powertools. So yes, we’re Old & Proud and learning that real life does go on after sixty (or seventy or eighty.) In fact it also gets much sweeter.
And speaking of sixty – some of my young friends are surprised to hear that the OLOC event has an age cut-off of sixty (exceptions are made for lovers, partners and caregivers.) OLOC has boldly said “this is our space.” The e-generation has MySpace on the internet. I’m going to claim my space at the OLOC Gathering.
Wednesday, June 4, 2008
Mommy, Where Do Lesbians Come From?
Edited version in:“In Magazine” June'08.
Towards an anthropology of lesbians as a tribe
I believe that lesbians constitute a tribe of our own. Since I was a baby dyke decades ago, I’ve traveled all over the world, to Rome, Mexico, England, and Africa. Wherever I go I recognize my people, lesbians. As an elder lesbian stateswoman, I want to tell my lesbian daughters – yes, you kids on the road to assimilation -- how important it is for you to know who you are. Whether you gather by the thousands at posh hotels in Palm Springs (known as the DINAH ritual), or you’ve been to the great lesbian music festivals of the 1980’s, you have participated in the international lesbian tribe.
What does it mean to be a tribe? Webster’s Dictionary calls a “tribe” -- a group of people, a division, class of people characterized by its own culture, and having a name, a dialect …a political division of a united people … coincident with the founding of new colonies.
What are the characteristics of our lesbian culture? What are those building blocks which transcend centuries and define us as a unique tribe of people?
STORY: One of these characteristics is ‘story.’ Lesbians have a commonly held story of our how our people survived over centuries of oppression. Our story dates back to the beginnings of written history. In our case, our story dates back to 430 B.C. with the legends of the famous teacher, Sappho, and her school of the arts for young girls on the Greek Island of Lesbos. Lesbos is not fiction. Look it up. It’s an island in the Aegean Sea. Sappho is not fiction. You may find books of her poetry, and stories about her and her lover, Bilitis, and their lives as teachers to upper class Greek girls to prepare them for marriage. And even before the dawn of written history, one finds examples and references to Amazon tribes who roamed the forests of Europe before the dawn of patriarchy (rule by men).
LANGUAGE: We as lesbians have a language and a sense of cultural humor that springs out of our story. We see our language in simple cartoons like “Dykes to Watch Out For.” Alison Bechdel, the lesbian creator of this comic, has recently been invited to join the Usage Panel of the American Heritage Dictionary because even the heterosexual world recognizes that we lesbians have a language of our own. Now that’s recognizing the linguistic uniqueness of lesbians! We see our language developing in jokes like, What does a lesbian bring on her 2nd date? Answer: a U Haul. We have language, sometimes called ‘gaydar,’ that allows us to come out and define each other on the streets, “Didn’t I see/meet you last year at the Palms?” “This is my partner, Susan.” “Is that your girlfriend, or your girl-friend?” “Is she a ‘sister’?” “Are you a member of the family?”
DRESS: Each generation of lesbians defines itself with slightly different versions of a set of common fundamental style of shoes, hats, hair and accessories. Whether it was the radical chic androgynous drag of the 70s, or the lipstick lesbian salty look of the 80s, or the young queer women of the new century, we recognize each other.
PSYCHOLOGY: Lesbians have a broad range of tools, both learned and genetic, which make us capable of and willing to live on a much deeper emotional plane. It is a place much deeper than most straight people are willing to live on. It is a place defined by the psyche and needs of two women engaged in intimate relating. In my long eight years of living amongst the heterosexuals in an expatriate community in Mexico, one of the things I missed most about my tribe was lesbian conversation. Straights talk about the banality of life. Who you are is defined by your job or your money. How was work today? Where do you live? When will you buy a new house? How are the children? Lesbian life is defined by the emotional news of the day. How do you feel about your job? How’s your relationship (which really means -- what is the nature of your relating and how do you each feel about it)?
When a straight couple goes to ‘therapy’ it’s a secret from their friends and means they’ll most likely break up. Lesbians go to therapy as often as they get a tune up for the car. Therapy is an ordinary part of life’s unfolding.
FAMILY: Lesbians forge familial bonds with a chosen family that is based upon shared values rather than biology. I think it is a blessing in disguise that most of us experienced a sense of alienation from our parents in our teens and early twenties. This forces us to psychologically separate from our bio-fams and go out into the world and find intimate, stalwart friends. Friends with whom we share the joys and grief of relationship, birth, death, job loss – the major difficulties of life. This depth of sharing creates family. When my biological sisters and brothers came to my commitment ceremony I asked them to get in a line for a ritual called ‘the procession of the family.’ This procession would then walk into the marital circle with me. My many siblings were shocked to see five or six people they didn’t know in the line. ‘Who are these people?” they asked me. “Why are they in the family procession?”
“Oh,” I explained, “They are my family of choice. I have two families.”
WEDDING RITUALS: And speaking of weddings, anyone who's ever been to a straight wedding and then a lesbian commitment ceremony can see the awesome differences in how we build this ritual. Women draw on our personal life experiences when planning the words and ceremonies of our partnering. We prefer to write our own scripts and vows. We pick ministers who reflect our political and social values.
RELIGION: Because we don’t find our spiritual home in traditional religions, most lesbians have made a life search of building our own spiritual lives. Many lesbians find it difficult to belong to a religion which defines ‘god’ as only masculine. We know that traditional religions are a by-product of a male dominated culture, the Judeo-Christian age of the last two millennia. Lesbians who chose to believe in a deity need ‘God’ to encompass the feminine as well as the masculine. So we have gone back to goddess centered belief systems, or found New-Age spiritual beliefs, among them Science of Mind, which correctly resurrects the religions of earlier times in which our Higher Power is all things feminine and masculine.
BORN OUTLAWS: Lesbians see great advantage in being born into a minority culture, because as outlaws we are more able to think beyond the boundaries of racial and gender prejudices. It is not an accident that lesbians are primary in the leadership of most social movements in our country -- be it the abolition of slavery in the 1800s, the founding of the profession of social work (Jane Addams was a lesbian), the second civil rights movement of the 60s, the environmental movement, doctors without borders, Amnesty International, or the gender bending movements of today. Wherever you see social injustice, you see lesbians leading these struggles.
I could go on to book length about all the behavioral characterizes of our Amazon tribe. But in conclusion I want to send a message to my lesbian daughters. The challenge of this assimilating decade may be for today’s young lesbian to know her cultural heritage, and figure out how to mainstream without losing it. I want to say to you – We lesbians are not an accident of heterosexual labeling. We are a people with a story to tell. In your drive to be assimilated into the mainstream, be careful not to lose your heritage. My generation of lesbians, and the generation before me, bought your freedom with our careers, our family, and sometimes with our blood. We look at you, the E-generation, with great pride and love. As we pass the torch of Lesbian Nation to you, we assure you that the price of mainstreaming must not include giving up your birthright as citizens in the tribe of women identified women.
(Written: May 17, 2008. Based on my speech at June L Mazer Lesbian Archives, “Lesbian Spaces, Lesbian Culture” -- May 4, 2008)
Towards an anthropology of lesbians as a tribe
I believe that lesbians constitute a tribe of our own. Since I was a baby dyke decades ago, I’ve traveled all over the world, to Rome, Mexico, England, and Africa. Wherever I go I recognize my people, lesbians. As an elder lesbian stateswoman, I want to tell my lesbian daughters – yes, you kids on the road to assimilation -- how important it is for you to know who you are. Whether you gather by the thousands at posh hotels in Palm Springs (known as the DINAH ritual), or you’ve been to the great lesbian music festivals of the 1980’s, you have participated in the international lesbian tribe.
What does it mean to be a tribe? Webster’s Dictionary calls a “tribe” -- a group of people, a division, class of people characterized by its own culture, and having a name, a dialect …a political division of a united people … coincident with the founding of new colonies.
What are the characteristics of our lesbian culture? What are those building blocks which transcend centuries and define us as a unique tribe of people?
STORY: One of these characteristics is ‘story.’ Lesbians have a commonly held story of our how our people survived over centuries of oppression. Our story dates back to the beginnings of written history. In our case, our story dates back to 430 B.C. with the legends of the famous teacher, Sappho, and her school of the arts for young girls on the Greek Island of Lesbos. Lesbos is not fiction. Look it up. It’s an island in the Aegean Sea. Sappho is not fiction. You may find books of her poetry, and stories about her and her lover, Bilitis, and their lives as teachers to upper class Greek girls to prepare them for marriage. And even before the dawn of written history, one finds examples and references to Amazon tribes who roamed the forests of Europe before the dawn of patriarchy (rule by men).
LANGUAGE: We as lesbians have a language and a sense of cultural humor that springs out of our story. We see our language in simple cartoons like “Dykes to Watch Out For.” Alison Bechdel, the lesbian creator of this comic, has recently been invited to join the Usage Panel of the American Heritage Dictionary because even the heterosexual world recognizes that we lesbians have a language of our own. Now that’s recognizing the linguistic uniqueness of lesbians! We see our language developing in jokes like, What does a lesbian bring on her 2nd date? Answer: a U Haul. We have language, sometimes called ‘gaydar,’ that allows us to come out and define each other on the streets, “Didn’t I see/meet you last year at the Palms?” “This is my partner, Susan.” “Is that your girlfriend, or your girl-friend?” “Is she a ‘sister’?” “Are you a member of the family?”
DRESS: Each generation of lesbians defines itself with slightly different versions of a set of common fundamental style of shoes, hats, hair and accessories. Whether it was the radical chic androgynous drag of the 70s, or the lipstick lesbian salty look of the 80s, or the young queer women of the new century, we recognize each other.
PSYCHOLOGY: Lesbians have a broad range of tools, both learned and genetic, which make us capable of and willing to live on a much deeper emotional plane. It is a place much deeper than most straight people are willing to live on. It is a place defined by the psyche and needs of two women engaged in intimate relating. In my long eight years of living amongst the heterosexuals in an expatriate community in Mexico, one of the things I missed most about my tribe was lesbian conversation. Straights talk about the banality of life. Who you are is defined by your job or your money. How was work today? Where do you live? When will you buy a new house? How are the children? Lesbian life is defined by the emotional news of the day. How do you feel about your job? How’s your relationship (which really means -- what is the nature of your relating and how do you each feel about it)?
When a straight couple goes to ‘therapy’ it’s a secret from their friends and means they’ll most likely break up. Lesbians go to therapy as often as they get a tune up for the car. Therapy is an ordinary part of life’s unfolding.
FAMILY: Lesbians forge familial bonds with a chosen family that is based upon shared values rather than biology. I think it is a blessing in disguise that most of us experienced a sense of alienation from our parents in our teens and early twenties. This forces us to psychologically separate from our bio-fams and go out into the world and find intimate, stalwart friends. Friends with whom we share the joys and grief of relationship, birth, death, job loss – the major difficulties of life. This depth of sharing creates family. When my biological sisters and brothers came to my commitment ceremony I asked them to get in a line for a ritual called ‘the procession of the family.’ This procession would then walk into the marital circle with me. My many siblings were shocked to see five or six people they didn’t know in the line. ‘Who are these people?” they asked me. “Why are they in the family procession?”
“Oh,” I explained, “They are my family of choice. I have two families.”
WEDDING RITUALS: And speaking of weddings, anyone who's ever been to a straight wedding and then a lesbian commitment ceremony can see the awesome differences in how we build this ritual. Women draw on our personal life experiences when planning the words and ceremonies of our partnering. We prefer to write our own scripts and vows. We pick ministers who reflect our political and social values.
RELIGION: Because we don’t find our spiritual home in traditional religions, most lesbians have made a life search of building our own spiritual lives. Many lesbians find it difficult to belong to a religion which defines ‘god’ as only masculine. We know that traditional religions are a by-product of a male dominated culture, the Judeo-Christian age of the last two millennia. Lesbians who chose to believe in a deity need ‘God’ to encompass the feminine as well as the masculine. So we have gone back to goddess centered belief systems, or found New-Age spiritual beliefs, among them Science of Mind, which correctly resurrects the religions of earlier times in which our Higher Power is all things feminine and masculine.
BORN OUTLAWS: Lesbians see great advantage in being born into a minority culture, because as outlaws we are more able to think beyond the boundaries of racial and gender prejudices. It is not an accident that lesbians are primary in the leadership of most social movements in our country -- be it the abolition of slavery in the 1800s, the founding of the profession of social work (Jane Addams was a lesbian), the second civil rights movement of the 60s, the environmental movement, doctors without borders, Amnesty International, or the gender bending movements of today. Wherever you see social injustice, you see lesbians leading these struggles.
I could go on to book length about all the behavioral characterizes of our Amazon tribe. But in conclusion I want to send a message to my lesbian daughters. The challenge of this assimilating decade may be for today’s young lesbian to know her cultural heritage, and figure out how to mainstream without losing it. I want to say to you – We lesbians are not an accident of heterosexual labeling. We are a people with a story to tell. In your drive to be assimilated into the mainstream, be careful not to lose your heritage. My generation of lesbians, and the generation before me, bought your freedom with our careers, our family, and sometimes with our blood. We look at you, the E-generation, with great pride and love. As we pass the torch of Lesbian Nation to you, we assure you that the price of mainstreaming must not include giving up your birthright as citizens in the tribe of women identified women.
(Written: May 17, 2008. Based on my speech at June L Mazer Lesbian Archives, “Lesbian Spaces, Lesbian Culture” -- May 4, 2008)
Saturday, May 3, 2008
Millett stories Inspired by the TIDE COVER
It's Ang talking here: Okay so I thought the retro GIANT glasses of today came out of nowhere! Who knew Kate Millett started the trend. She was a trend setter in many more important ways, almost too many to count. One thing you might not know about her is that she was one of the first women to make a film using an all women crew. She did it back in 1971 (Three Lives). But a more personal story sticks in my mind whenever I hear her name.I was a 16 year old lesbian convinced I was "the only one" on earth. I went to the Anaheim, CA public library every day after school and scoured the shelves for anything resembling me. Nothing in all the thousands of books... until one day, I found Sita by Kate Millett. Kate wrote about her affair with an older woman. I couldn't get enough. How many any other personal Kate Millett stories are out there?
I'd love to hear them.
Wednesday, April 9, 2008
Bird Watching at the Dinah Shore - a sociopolitical field trip
I used to go to the Dinah Shore lez-forget-about-the-golf weekend in Palm Springs way back in the 80s, before it became the largest lesbian hang in California. I thought I’d seen it all. But a new young friend told me, “It’s waaaay different now, ya gotta stay relevant. Check it out!”
So I dragged me and my blog-mate, Lily B. Wit, out to Palm Springs to see what the gen X, eGen, queer, lipstick forever, whatev, young lezbianas (that’s the Latina plural for lesbians) are doing these days.
The sun was shining but the wind-chill at Club Skirts on Sunday was bold enough to make a thousand nipples stand out. That didn’t bother the huge crowd hanging at the pool, half naked and bouncing, listening to “Betty” sing their theme song from The L Word. The trio – Alison, Amy & Elizabeth -- also has a new song, “Did You Tell Her?” with lyrics about things you don’t want to tell your lover.
But me, I was checking out the dozens of hairdo’s the young lesbians were sporting. For butches, futches and bois wearing shirts that hung to their knees, I could see that their pride was their HAIR. And for the ladies, femmes, and the feminine – HAIR has always been god.
And no-one wanted to mess up their hair by jumping into the pool.
So I went. I saw. I took photos.
So I dragged me and my blog-mate, Lily B. Wit, out to Palm Springs to see what the gen X, eGen, queer, lipstick forever, whatev, young lezbianas (that’s the Latina plural for lesbians) are doing these days.
The sun was shining but the wind-chill at Club Skirts on Sunday was bold enough to make a thousand nipples stand out. That didn’t bother the huge crowd hanging at the pool, half naked and bouncing, listening to “Betty” sing their theme song from The L Word. The trio – Alison, Amy & Elizabeth -- also has a new song, “Did You Tell Her?” with lyrics about things you don’t want to tell your lover.
But me, I was checking out the dozens of hairdo’s the young lesbians were sporting. For butches, futches and bois wearing shirts that hung to their knees, I could see that their pride was their HAIR. And for the ladies, femmes, and the feminine – HAIR has always been god.
And no-one wanted to mess up their hair by jumping into the pool.
So I went. I saw. I took photos.
Friday, February 22, 2008
from our Archives
The Lesbian Tide had very colorful covers even when they were in monochrome. Doesn't this cover make you want to read what's inside - even today ... and be one of the 2,000 women who showed up on the campus of UCLA, April 17, 1973?Posted by ANG
from our Archives
If you ask the average feminist of 2008 if the world has changed much in the past 30 years she will likely say, "No." When it comes to violence against women, not much has changed as all.These women could be marching just like this today and they are.
Violence against women and girls continues unabated in every continent, country and culture. It takes a devastating toll on women’s lives, on their families, and on society as a whole. Most societies prohibit such violence — yet the reality is that too often, it is covered up or tacitly condoned. — UN Secretary-General Ban Ki-Moon, 8 March 2007
Posted by ANG
Friday, February 15, 2008
Margie Adam Said ...
"The first invitation I ever received to perform in public was made by Jeanne Córdova of The Lesbian Tide magazine in Los Angeles after she heard me sing at an open mike at Kate Millet's Sacramento Women's Music Festival. I told her I wasn't a performer. I told her I wasn't political. She said just come and sing your songs at our benefit. Come and sing your woman's life for us. I went to LA. I sang songs about my life at a benefit for this lesbian feminist magazine." Margie Adam
Jeanne Córdova and The Lesbian Tide
The Lesbian Tide
Jeanne Cordova, lesbian feminist activist and organizer, was the founder of The Lesbian Tide magazine in 1971. Cordova was one of twelve children born in Germany to a culturally conservative Catholic family. After coming to the US with her family, she attended Catholic High School, where she was involved in sports and the student body organization. After graduating, she entered the convent, fulfilling the desire she had from the age of seven to be a nun. Her exposure to poverty, homosexuality, drugs and the peace movement during her work in the convent led her to seek a career in social work. After leaving the convent and getting her BA in social work in 1970, Cordova became involved in the gay rights movement. She was active in the Gay Liberation Front, Lesbian Feminists, Daughters of Bilitis (DOB), and the Crenshaw Women's Center and was one of the organizers of the first Gay Women's West Coast Conference.
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